I am a non medical psychotherapist and clinical supervisor who has been working in community mental health and with a private practice for decades, helping kids and families grow through pain toward healthier, happier lives.  I utilize a humanize a humanistic systems framework both clinically and supervisorially, to facilitate healing and growth.  My colleague in this presentation is one of my current supervisees.  We will describe how intervening with clients from a developmentally respectful spot enhances their ability to mature and grow rather than expecting them to adapt to our particular point of view.  Since we work in schools serving youth from K-12th grade, information relevant to those areas of development will be shown.